Wednesday, July 9, 2008

The World Is Lucky...

Today was an interesting day. My mother in law decided she wanted to come visit Ryan and spend some time with our family. Little did I know that basically meant that I was on babysitting duty, and she wanted me to take her shopping, swimming, and leave her alone with my child... not fun at all.

As much as I hated all that, at least I was prepared for it. I wasn't, however, prepared at all for something so underhanded and passive aggressive that came with her. I was questioned about my ability to parent. And not in a "Do you need help?" or "Let me make a suggestion" kind of way... she flat out corrected me and made me feel like the most insignificant person around. I know that I am not the best mom out there... but I feel that I was given Ryan because someone trusted me with such a fragile little being. I don't think that's her place to be questioning this.

I realized as she took toys away from Ryan that I thought were fine and as she questioned Plums with Apples as and appropriate "lunch", I had 2 ways to react. I could tell her that she was wrong, that she doesn't know what she is talking about and that I am awesome. Or, I could tell her nothing. I could realize that she did things a certain way, and it worked for her... and some things just work for me. And that's ok.

I decide on a little from column A, and a bit from column B. I decide that this is what works for me... AND I am awesome. I do things the way I do because it is what will make my tomorrow unique. My Laissez-Faire attitude is what will give Ryan the ability to open up more and realize that it's ok not to bottle things up because I will accept him for who he is, and what he wants to become. And ultimately, my world is better because of this attitude...

It's time to realize that you are special, and the world is lucky to have you in it! Even if you mother in law doesn't agree.

2 comments:

myeverythings said...

You are a better person than I am! I think I might FLIP OUT. This is one of the biggest reasons I want to keep visitors away for a while. Granted, this sort of thing happens anyway, no matter how long you try and keep them away. It's just sooo irritating that someone who hasn't reared a child in X amount of years always has the loudest opinion... blah! (((HUGS))) for putting up with it and a high five for going about it better than I would =)

Brandi said...

You are a saint to have not ripped her arm off and beat her with it.

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